Love and Relationship Ethos: Double Standards

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When we think double standards, a few things instantly come to mind. Like if a girl dates numerous guys she's "fast", but if a guy dates numerous girls he's "the man." But these aren't the double standards I'm talking about. I'm talking about those hidden double standards that exist in relationships. The ones that everyone knows are there, but no one ever talks about; especially us ladies! Thats right, girls are as much to blame for these double standards as guys are for the more universal ones.

For example: the text me first rule. Ask any girl why she's offended that a guy she's dating/seeing/'talking to' hasn't texted or called her and you generally get the same lame answer. If he's thinking about me, he should text me first. Sorry, wrong. Wrong on so many different levels. Despite their savage reputations, guys are still humans. Meaning, the same way a girl wants to know her guy is thinking about her, he wants to know his girl is thinking about him. Would it kill you to send a good morning text every once in a while? Or, call me crazy, a text to say 'I was just thinking about you.' Girls cry and pout about how relationships are give and take, yet they are quick to draw lines about who gives what. If chivalry is dead, women are just as much to blame as men! (Yes, I actually just went there).

Another double standard that kills me, the rule where the guy has to ask the girl out. Don't get me wrong, I'm as traditional as the next girl, but I'm also the kind of girl who goes after what she wants. So if I was interested in someone and I knew the feeling was mutual, why not ask them out? And what excuse do most girls give for not asking out a guy? "Oh, but what if he rejects me?" News flash: guys fear rejection just as much (if not more) than girls do.

There are dozens of other double standards that exist in relationships. As long as we ladies let double standards slide, the more guys will create double standards to counteract us. Put the love games aside, and just enjoy being together.