When it comes to the people I allow to be in my life, I've always had a "tight circle" mentality. I've been lucky enough to always know what my core values are, and even luckier to be stubborn enough to always stick to them. Whenever I let anyone in my life in any way, shape, or form, I have to admit- I have a tendency to be a little...harsh at times. If I ever felt that someone was becoming the kind of person that I didn't want to associate with or that would bring me down in any way, I would remove them from my life with a quickness. It's just the mentality I've always had. I like to think it's half of my being wise and making wise decisions, and half being guarded (I can admit it).
Since I've had this mentality, at least in part, because I am a guarded person, I've always enforced a strict rule about letting people back into my life after I've removed them: don't do it. I do this for many reasons: my progressive nature plays a huge part- letting people back in is a move backwards, not forwards; how will it seem to others if the person I was so sure shouldn't be in my life is suddenly back in?
But the more I move through life and the more I grow I realize that maybe I've been a little... misguided. Maybe letting someone back in isn't a sign of my regression, but a sign of their progression. Doesn't it make sense that if someone changes the thing about them that forced you to remove them from your life, you can and probably should give them another chance. Why is it so important to limit the number of chances we give someone to "get right"?
Truthfully, how many times have we received a second, third, forth, or even fifth chance, even when we didn't deserve it? Pay it forward, return the favor, be open to new old relationships; because no one is place in your life by chance.
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